I know that you haven’t heard from me in a while. I haven’t been consistent in my work and I apologize. The April challenge winner is @Colleenalau! Her May challenge consisted of being grateful for the small things in her life for the entire month. She kept a journal to record her challenge and posted a picture for each week on her Instagram. If you are interested in seeing her challenge, don’t hesitate to follow her!
The April challenge was a blast; forcing myself to attend the gym for twenty-one days was no joke. I still attend the gym at least twice a week. It is not easy. My arms hurt, legs are in pain, my core is screaming at me, and I’m not sure if my back is sweating or crying out for help. Although my body parts are not happy with me, I love knowing that I’m working on being healthy and a better vision of myself. That is what being a Bougie Babe is all about. We, as bougie babes, need to be constantly working to evolve into better versions of our former selves. Whether that be separating yourself from your draining work, manipulating friends, and emotionally damaging family; it is to create the person we strive to be in life.
Unfortunately, separating yourself from some of the familiarities are difficult. Removing yourself from an unhealthy environment with the ones you know affects the relationship. Some people learn to be cordial and mature about the end of bond; others may lash out or react negatively. It will affect everyone in a different way. I learned my lesson when it comes to ending a bond. It hurts. Once, I cried for a few days wondering if I was wrong for ending the relationship. After a few weeks, I used my pain to fuel my desire for growth.
Losing a loved one that is not physically gone can affect your spirit. It troubles you and creates a smothering atmosphere around you. You begin to blame yourself for the other person’s actions; taking on their sins as your own. You will want to rekindle the friendship/ relationship – don’t. The connection ended because of toxicity. Why go back to what hurt you in the first place?
Take the time to heal and evolve into the person you envision. Take the time to consider that you may have grown from the person, or they grew apart from you. If you need to remove yourself from any malicious or negative environment, please do so. An apple tree cannot grow in concrete. Surround yourself with ambitious people. Set goals that you want to achieve. Live the life that you want and let them live their life. Wish them well and hope they receive their blessings. It’s okay to end a relationship with someone close to you. That person brought a purpose into your life at the time you needed to learn something different. It’s okay to appreciate who the person is and to appreciate what they did for you. It’s now time to appreciate and love them from afar.
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