Time to Act: Femicide

Hey Babes,

I wanted to speak to my readers about a topic that is currently happening in our world – femicide.  Disclaimer: I received all my information from credible sources and the topic also discusses rape, death, sexual abuse, etc. 

On August 24 of this year, a young university student, Uyinene Mrwetyana, went missing.  Almost two weeks later, a man turned himself in to the authorities claiming to be Uyinene’s killer.  The 42 year old suspect described the details of the murder and led the authorities to the place he “dumped” the body.  Mrwetyana went to the post office where the suspect worked to inquiry about a parcel.  The murderer explained to the victim that he was not able to assist her at the time and she needed to come back later.  Unfortunately, she came back later when the two of them would be alone; the suspect then attacked her, killing her at the scene.   According to IOL, the man locked the doors of the post office, attacked her, and penetrated her.  In her last final moments, she fought back.  The brave woman fought her attacker before he could bludgeon her to death with a scale.   The killer contemplated burning her body, instead he left her body in the next town over. 

This young woman’s life was cut short by a man with a malicious soul and she’s not alone.  Blood boxer and karate champion, Leighandre Jegels, was shot days before by her soldier boyfriend, Bulelani Manyakama. Violence against women have risen in the recent years.  President Cyril Ramaphosa promised he will work with legislators and other government officials to raft a reform and tackle the crisis; however, he did not declare a state of emergency.   This is more than rafting a reform and talking about making the world safer for women and children, we need more than a discussion.  We are more than a conversation.  Bolivia, Venezuela, South Sudan, South Africa, America, India are a few countries where violence against women is on the rise.  Women can’t walk down the street or reject a person’s advances in fear of being killed.  Patriarchy allows women to be beaten, raped, assaulted, neglected without justice.  For example, Brock Turner served three months in jail for raping Chanel Miller.  He committed a crime that a person can serve 14 years in federal prison; he was sentenced to six months and served three months. 

Our abusers are getting away with tainting our lives.  We need to act.  For instance, Bolivia declared femicide a national priority.  The government announced a ten point emergency plan which will include: educating public sector employees and civil servants on gender violence and prevention, increasing government spending on gender violence and prevention, training school and university educators about the psychological, sexual, and physical violence women and young girls face.  We need more countries and governments to recognize this is a global issue and we need protection.  If you want to have your voice heard, spread awareness; educate men, and women about the crisis; please volunteer and donate to organizations that specialize in preventing violence.  See organizations below:

https://internationalmedicalcorps.org/program/womens-childrens-health/gender-based-violence-response-prevention/

https://www.usaid.gov/work-usaid/take-action

https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/prevention

Do your part in the fight to end the femicide! Don’t forget to like, share, and comment on the post.  Become a Bougie Babe and subscribe to the blog!  I would love to see more interaction from my readers.  For any updates, follow my Instagram @Ken.monet!  Thank you for reading!

Xoxoxo,

Bougie

Review: Dove Re-Styling Milk

Hey Babes,

It’s great to be back! Life is in a repetitive stage and I am exhausted.  Summer consists of three months and I did not have a “Hot Girl Summer” liked I planned to do this year.  I wanted to go on trips, have a daily activity, meditate, post more blogs, and take control of my life.  Now we are in August and time is running away from me.  I don’t appreciate it.  Summer is one of my favorite seasons; I need more summertime.  Some of the reasons I love about summer is the way nature blossoms; more people come together to inspire; fashion is dramatic yet light; and its not freezing cold outside.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a fan of mosquitos; the smell of trash that sits out the street too long (if you’re not from the city, you’re blessed); people playing with fireworks every night; and the excruciating heat, but Summer is the best season.

Another reason is the amount of hair products that come out.  Most companies release hair products that prevent frizz, seal in moisture, and define the curl.  I have tried an abundant amount of hair products and not many of them worked.  Luckily, I was chosen to review Dove’s new Between Washes Re-Styling Milk for the company’s new campaign.  Dove and Influenster sent me the complimentary product; I was excited to try it.  I did review the product on my social medias already, but I wanted my blog readers to also know about the product.  

The packaging was standard.  The item came with a card with instructions and the benefits of the product.  The 6.8 oz. bottle was wrapped in oatmeal white tissue paper.  After opening the product, I sprayed three times to get a decent amount.  The consistency is creamy and light.  I followed the instructions and ran the re-styling milk through a piece of my hair.  I scrunched my hair at the ends to add texture as the card instructed.    After a few minutes, my hair did curl.  After the first try, I applied the milk on half of my hair.  The half without the product felt dry and looked dryer.  My hair resembled the broom of the wicked witch.  The half with product felt soft, smelled soft, and looked soft.  It was a miracle! Finally, a product I need in my life.  Dove’s re-styling milk worked like a charm.  It worked for 30 minutes.  After a half an hour, my hair turned into a big fur ball. 

I wasn’t surprised, but I did want the product to prove me wrong.  My hair was still soft, but my curl was nonexistent.  Dove’s Between Washes Re-Styling Milk did its job for a short time.  I would rate the product four out of five stars.  It needs improvement, but it was a decent execution.  If you want shorter reviews on products, follow my Influester – @kenmonet.

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Xoxoxo,

Bougie

Review: Beauty Shield Massaging Overnight Recovery Cream

Hey Babes,

Summer is coming to an end with August being the last month of summer vacation.  The leaves are changing colors and the wind is biting at our skin.  Summer is not over, but the weather change is affecting my face.  As you all know, my skin is dryer than hair damaged by heat for over ten years.  My day skincare routine has saved my skin from the harsh sun, however, my skin still felt dry when waking up.  I knew I needed to change something else – my nighttime routine. 

My night routine didn’t change much from my previous routine post.  On the other hand, I did not replace most of the products I used after I finished the bottle.  Stupidly, I thought she (my skin) would act accordingly during the midnight hours.  That didn’t happen.  I was faced with a dilemma; how do I repair my skin when I’m not awake?  I didn’t know where to start, honestly.  The first thing I thought to do was to look for ingredients that help with repairing the skin.  Skin is important to me and I do research the ingredients of the products I use.  It is important to me to align myself with companies that are ethical and socially responsible.  I researched about a few companies and I saw an interesting product – the E.L.F. Beauty Shield Massaging Overnight Recovery Cream. 

E.L.F. is an affordable drug store makeup company that is sold in many stores such as Target, Ulta Beauty, Walgreens, CVS, and E.L.F. cosmetic stores.  I purchased the massaging cream at Target for $14 plus tax.  The ingredients, Hydrogenated Polyisobutene; Cetyl Alcohol; Vitamin C; Pomegranate oil; and Carrot oil, sold me on the product.  Hydrogenated Polyisobutene is a polymer that thickens the oils in cosmetic products which creates a softer and smoother look.  Cetyl Alcohol is a non-drying alcohol that holds the ingredients together.  Vitamin C, pomegranate oil, and carrot oil are antioxidants that nourish the skin; brighten dark spots; and repair damaged skin.  These ingredients were solutions to the issues I had with my skin.

After my first use with the recovery overnight cream, the consistency caught my attention.  I noticed the cream did not completely sink into the skin.  With the massager alone, my skin did not absorb the product.  I massaged the rest of the product into my skin with my fingers.  The substance didn’t feel sticky or greasy; it felt better on my face after I put it in the refrigerator for two minutes. 

The morning after, my face felt moisturized.  My appearance wasn’t affected immediately, however, my face did feel smoother.  After a few weeks of use, the massaging overnight recovery cream became a favorite.  Rolling the massaging beads on my face feels relaxing, especially after a rough day.  The cream works best on a fresh, clean face so I use the Beauty Shield product after applying my Vitamin C toner from BreedLove Beauty Co.  I noticed my skin felt nourished and hydrated in the morning. The bumps and ridges of my skin felt smoother and less visible. I like the product thus far and recommend it for people with minor skin damage.  If you want shorter reviews on products, follow my Influester – @kenmonet.

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Xoxoxo,

Bougie

It’s Time to End

Hey Babes,

I know that you haven’t heard from me in a while.  I haven’t been consistent in my work and I apologize.  The April challenge winner is @Colleenalau!  Her May challenge consisted of being grateful for the small things in her life for the entire month.  She kept a journal to record her challenge and posted a picture for each week on her Instagram.  If you are interested in seeing her challenge, don’t hesitate to follow her!

The April challenge was a blast; forcing myself to attend the gym for twenty-one days was no joke.  I still attend the gym at least twice a week.  It is not easy.  My arms hurt, legs are in pain, my core is screaming at me, and I’m not sure if my back is sweating or crying out for help.  Although my body parts are not happy with me, I love knowing that I’m working on being healthy and a better vision of myself.  That is what being a Bougie Babe is all about.  We, as bougie babes, need to be constantly working to evolve into better versions of our former selves.  Whether that be separating yourself from your draining work, manipulating friends, and emotionally damaging family; it is to create the person we strive to be in life.

Unfortunately, separating yourself from some of the familiarities are difficult.  Removing yourself from an unhealthy environment with the ones you know affects the relationship.  Some people learn to be cordial and mature about the end of bond; others may lash out or react negatively.  It will affect everyone in a different way.  I learned my lesson when it comes to ending a bond.  It hurts.  Once, I cried for a few days wondering if I was wrong for ending the relationship.  After a few weeks, I used my pain to fuel my desire for growth.

Losing a loved one that is not physically gone can affect your spirit.  It troubles you and creates a smothering atmosphere around you.  You begin to blame yourself for the other person’s actions; taking on their sins as your own.  You will want to rekindle the friendship/ relationship – don’t.  The connection ended because of toxicity.  Why go back to what hurt you in the first place?

Take the time to heal and evolve into the person you envision.  Take the time to consider that you may have grown from the person, or they grew apart from you.  If you need to remove yourself from any malicious or negative environment, please do so.  An apple tree cannot grow in concrete.  Surround yourself with ambitious people.   Set goals that you want to achieve.  Live the life that you want and let them live their life.  Wish them well and hope they receive their blessings.  It’s okay to end a relationship with someone close to you.  That person brought a purpose into your life at the time you needed to learn something different.  It’s okay to appreciate who the person is and to appreciate what they did for you.   It’s now time to appreciate and love them from afar.

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Bye Babes,

Xoxoxo

Bougie

April Bougie Babe Challenge

Hey babes!

Congratulations to the winner of the March challenge, Joyce Cheng! I hope you enjoy your prize and participate in the next Bougie Babe Challenge. Speaking of the next challenge, it’s a new month and we all know what that means – Challenge time!

It’s April, and when I think of this month. I think of growth. We celebrate Earth day and Easter in this month; both holidays represent adding to your life and growing to become a better version of yourself. Easter celebrates the resurrection of Christ and us gaining a second chance. Earth day brings awareness to our dying earth and giving us the tools to grow a sustainable world. Each holiday guides us to add positivity in our lives and that is what I wanted to do this month. For this month we will be adding a positive habit into our lives. I will be posting one lucky winner on April 30th and the winner will receive a $50 Visa gift card. Here are the rules:

  1. You must be following my blog, Bougie Babe and following me @ken.monet on Instagram.
  2. Challenger must upload a picture everyday or 7 pictures all together weekly on your progress with the hashtag #BougieBabeChallenge by April 29th at 11:59 pm.
  3. The caption should explain what you gave up for the month and why you chose the hobby or habit.
  4. The activity must be completed in APRIL OF 2019! Do NOT upload a picture of you completing a similar challenge from a long time ago.
  5. Comment on this post once you have uploaded your picture with your email address.

And those are the rules! I loved seeing the January, February, and March challenges you guys posted. I can’t wait to see the posts for this month. Also SHARE THE CHALLENGE WITH YOUR FRIENDS! Don’t forget to like, share, and comment on this post. Also, follow my blog and @ken.monet on Instagram.

Bye Babes!

xoxoxo,

Bougie