I know that you haven’t heard from me in a while. I haven’t been consistent in my work and I apologize. The April challenge winner is @Colleenalau! Her May challenge consisted of being grateful for the small things in her life for the entire month. She kept a journal to record her challenge and posted a picture for each week on her Instagram. If you are interested in seeing her challenge, don’t hesitate to follow her!
The April challenge was a blast; forcing myself to attend the gym for twenty-one days was no joke. I still attend the gym at least twice a week. It is not easy. My arms hurt, legs are in pain, my core is screaming at me, and I’m not sure if my back is sweating or crying out for help. Although my body parts are not happy with me, I love knowing that I’m working on being healthy and a better vision of myself. That is what being a Bougie Babe is all about. We, as bougie babes, need to be constantly working to evolve into better versions of our former selves. Whether that be separating yourself from your draining work, manipulating friends, and emotionally damaging family; it is to create the person we strive to be in life.
Unfortunately, separating yourself from some of the familiarities are difficult. Removing yourself from an unhealthy environment with the ones you know affects the relationship. Some people learn to be cordial and mature about the end of bond; others may lash out or react negatively. It will affect everyone in a different way. I learned my lesson when it comes to ending a bond. It hurts. Once, I cried for a few days wondering if I was wrong for ending the relationship. After a few weeks, I used my pain to fuel my desire for growth.
Losing a loved one that is not physically gone can affect your spirit. It troubles you and creates a smothering atmosphere around you. You begin to blame yourself for the other person’s actions; taking on their sins as your own. You will want to rekindle the friendship/ relationship – don’t. The connection ended because of toxicity. Why go back to what hurt you in the first place?
Take the time to heal and evolve into the person you envision. Take the time to consider that you may have grown from the person, or they grew apart from you. If you need to remove yourself from any malicious or negative environment, please do so. An apple tree cannot grow in concrete. Surround yourself with ambitious people. Set goals that you want to achieve. Live the life that you want and let them live their life. Wish them well and hope they receive their blessings. It’s okay to end a relationship with someone close to you. That person brought a purpose into your life at the time you needed to learn something different. It’s okay to appreciate who the person is and to appreciate what they did for you. It’s now time to appreciate and love them from afar.
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It is time of the year. The weather is starting to toy with our feelings; the snow has melted, but the wind is still thriving. I know there is someone in front of their mirror contemplating wearing a light blue jumpsuit or wearing a leather jacket, a pair of jeans, and rain-boots. On the other hand, this is the time we start to look for new and better outfits to purchase. The newest Spring collection of your favorite designer has launched, and you’ve made room in your closet for everything and anything. But did you prepare your wallet the same way you prepared your closet? No. I don’t judge you. I also neglected my wallet and decided space in my wardrobe was more important. I was fascinated with the different patterns, the intricate cuts outs, and the vibrant colors, until I noticed the price tag. The price tag of these designer stores made me put some of my old clothes back on the hanger, luckily, I found some affordable online boutiques that aren’t a complete sham. I know what you’re thinking, “online boutiques are nothing but people recycling clothes from other stores with cheaper material and overpriced.” Yeah, I know. There are some clothing brands that sell us a piece of fabric for more than what we make an hour. And there are also some clothing brands that sell good quality clothes for a decent price.
3udora is a black woman
owned online boutique that focuses on unique and eccentric fashion. The online boutique includes sizes for all
women, sizes ranging from small to XX-Large.
The founder of 3udora, Candice Jean-Pierre, fell in love with fashion at
a young age. She grew up in an area
where many of the retail stores had the same clothing and girls’ fashion were
predictable. She decided to create a
modern, sophisticated, and unique Afrocentric clothing boutique. She asses the quality of her clothes by
trying on samples and testing the clothes herself before posting her clothing
on the site. She believes that the clothes
she designs bring a sense of belonging to the women who purchased it. In her words, “They preserve the afro-culture
of these women [black women] and celebrate it, while everyone else just looks
at it as a trend.” Personally, I have
purchased from the site before, and I love the quality of my head wrap. The material is stretchy, breathable, and
versatile. I recommend this store to everyone.
Rebellious Fashion is one of the many well known popular online
boutiques we see dominating Instagram.
The online boutique has gained much traction since created in 2013. The online retail store is based in the
United Kingdom and has been in business for over 20 years. Rebellious Fashion was made to be different,
risky, and classy all in one. The
clothes trend on many different platforms and focus on making the buyer feel good. The quality of the clothes
is very good, especially for a mainstream online boutique. And if someone receives a malfunctioned
product; the customer service is excellent.
Papaya clothing is an online boutique with physical retail stores
located in the United States. Papaya
clothing has been in the game for over three decades. The store has a variety of sizes for all
shapes and sizes. Papaya clothing prides
themselves in helping millions of women find the best clothes that will fit
their style. The best thing is the
company has control of their supply chain; the company is direct with all
operations and customer savings. The
company tests the wear of their clothes before posting the items. The clothes wear well and can last for
months, even years, after purchase.
Poppy Apparel is an upcoming boutique that has much potential. The boutique sells different clothes for any occasion. Although it is a newer website than the big names on the list, the brand started to receive buzz from smaller influencers. On the other hand, the company does not have an about page or speaks much on the experience of creating the boutique. The brand is nice but needs to step up their game to receive notoriety in the fashion world.
certainly not least, Kloset Envy is next on the list. Kloset Envy is all about looking good but not
breaking the bank. Jai Nice, founder of
Kloset Envy, tests her products on herself and the Kloset Envy models before
selling her clothes. She styles and buys
her clothes, as well. In my own
experience, the quality of the clothes is exceptional. The fabric doesn’t feel scratchy on the skin
at all. I suggest ordering up in size because
the clothes are snug.
Don’t forget to share, like, and comment on this blog post! Comment below the different boutiques you like to shop for clothes. Also, follow me on Instagram @ken.monet for blog and challenge updates. Remember to post March challenge updates on your Instagram with the hashtag #BougieBabeChallenge by March 29th at 11:59pm.