Three Strand Twist Tutorial

Hey Babes,

I uploaded a video! I am uploading the video to my IGTV and YouTube. Follow me on my social media to see the video.

IG: ken.monet

YouTube: Bougie Ken

Twitter: @ken_monet

I would love to hear your comments and feedback. Thank you so much for supporting me. I love you babes!

Xoxo,

Bougie

It’s Time to End

Hey Babes,

I know that you haven’t heard from me in a while.  I haven’t been consistent in my work and I apologize.  The April challenge winner is @Colleenalau!  Her May challenge consisted of being grateful for the small things in her life for the entire month.  She kept a journal to record her challenge and posted a picture for each week on her Instagram.  If you are interested in seeing her challenge, don’t hesitate to follow her!

The April challenge was a blast; forcing myself to attend the gym for twenty-one days was no joke.  I still attend the gym at least twice a week.  It is not easy.  My arms hurt, legs are in pain, my core is screaming at me, and I’m not sure if my back is sweating or crying out for help.  Although my body parts are not happy with me, I love knowing that I’m working on being healthy and a better vision of myself.  That is what being a Bougie Babe is all about.  We, as bougie babes, need to be constantly working to evolve into better versions of our former selves.  Whether that be separating yourself from your draining work, manipulating friends, and emotionally damaging family; it is to create the person we strive to be in life.

Unfortunately, separating yourself from some of the familiarities are difficult.  Removing yourself from an unhealthy environment with the ones you know affects the relationship.  Some people learn to be cordial and mature about the end of bond; others may lash out or react negatively.  It will affect everyone in a different way.  I learned my lesson when it comes to ending a bond.  It hurts.  Once, I cried for a few days wondering if I was wrong for ending the relationship.  After a few weeks, I used my pain to fuel my desire for growth.

Losing a loved one that is not physically gone can affect your spirit.  It troubles you and creates a smothering atmosphere around you.  You begin to blame yourself for the other person’s actions; taking on their sins as your own.  You will want to rekindle the friendship/ relationship – don’t.  The connection ended because of toxicity.  Why go back to what hurt you in the first place?

Take the time to heal and evolve into the person you envision.  Take the time to consider that you may have grown from the person, or they grew apart from you.  If you need to remove yourself from any malicious or negative environment, please do so.  An apple tree cannot grow in concrete.  Surround yourself with ambitious people.   Set goals that you want to achieve.  Live the life that you want and let them live their life.  Wish them well and hope they receive their blessings.  It’s okay to end a relationship with someone close to you.  That person brought a purpose into your life at the time you needed to learn something different.  It’s okay to appreciate who the person is and to appreciate what they did for you.   It’s now time to appreciate and love them from afar.

Don’t forget to follow my Instagram, @ken.monet, for blog updates, giveaways, and more.  Like, share, comment, and follow the blog. Thank you for reading!

Bye Babes,

Xoxoxo

Bougie

February Bougie Babe Challenge

Hey Babes!

Happy Black History month! It is time for the newest challenge of the month. I thought long about this challenge, which is why it took me until now to announce it. I didn’t know if I wanted to combine black history with Valentine’s Day festivities. However, I felt that it would be too obvious. I want to create challenges that better my reader and myself. This month’s challenge is to enjoy love. Once a week, complete an activity that you love to do. I know it’s sounds easy, but life can get in the way of our alone time. Spend time with yourself while reading a book; cleaning the house; writing a poem, or trying new recipes. I will be posting one lucky winner on February 28th and the winner will receive a $50 Visa gift card. Here are the rules:

  1. You must be following my blog, Bougie Babe and following me @ken.monet on Instagram.
  1. Challenger must upload a picture each week of them enjoying the activity they love with the hashtag #BougieBabeChallenge by February 27th at 11:59 pm.
  1. The activity must be completed in February OF 2019! Do NOT upload a picture of an old vacation or activity you completed a long time ago.
  1. Comment on this post once you have uploaded your picture with your email address.
  1. The caption should explain what the activity is and why you chose to partake in it.

And those are the rules! I loved seeing the January challenges you guys posted. I can’t wait to see the posts for this month. Don’t forget to like, share, and comment on this post. Also, follow my blog and @ken.monet on Instagram.

Bye Babes!

Xoxoxo,

Bougie

Light the Fire Before the New Year

“Light the fire within, not the fire below.”

Hey Babes!

Finally, the new year is on its way! Better choices will be made and better opportunities will be utilized. You won’t make the same mistakes and will better yourself. New year, new you, right? But maybe that’s not how you’re feeling.

Are you unmotivated? Do you frequently question your purpose in life?  Is life repetitive and mundane?  Then the fire within you has faded.  The passion living inside has died.  The day drags on until your shoes are off, your head is comfortably in the pillows, and the sound of silence puts you to sleep. The simple routine in your life makes it harder to practice your craft or to start your own business. Like I’ve stayed before, do NOT wait until 2019 to do something. You got this! Let’s do something now that will impact us before 2019:

1. Eat more fruits and vegetables

I am guilty of not eating enough vegetables! I am the pickiest eater but I like trying different dishes. On the other hand, I haven’t been eating as healthy as I should. What can I say? I love French fries and chicken wings. The unhealthy eating and putting processed foods in our bodies stop today! Try to go cold turkey or slowly stop eating fast food; no matter how you achieve the goal, we can do it. Trust me, you’ll feel better before 2019 makes its way to your front door.

2. Choose better friends

During this time of the year, more people talk about leaving “fake friends” in 2018. If someone in your life is not the right for you, then it is time to let that person go. But don’t wait until it’s 11:59pm on December 31st, to tell these people to roll bounce out of your life. As Bougie Babes, we keep our circle filled with positive people who want the best for themselves and for you. So don’t wait, interact with the people that peak your curiosity; ask your friends the difficult open ended questions and see if they are meant to be in your life. Believe the actions of your friends, family, coworkers, mentors, and etc. And remember, just because you do not click with a person does not make them fake. The individual is just not your cup of tea.

3. Practice healthier coping mechanisms

Whether it be through fitness , through the arts, or through knowledge; we will practice better ways to express our emotions. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Alcohol, drugs, and violence have terrible long term consequences. It can stun your growth physically and mentally. Before January 1st, we will not rely on bad habits to make us happy. So pick up a paintbrush, a pen, or a dumbbell and fight our demons head on!

4. Communication is key

I know it’s cliche, but you know it’s true. Many times our worst moments started because of miscommunication. It’s time to say how we feel in a respectful manner. It’s not easier to change the way you communicate. I know from experience that changing the way you speak to others is DIFFICULT! You need to think before you speak and be able to get your point across in a conversation.

5. Drink more water

Yep, I said what I said.  Water is natural and the best thing for us, why not use it?  Put down the 2 liter bottle of soda and get a gallon of water.  Don’t drink the gallon in a day, but drink at least 4 cups of water a day.  The best way to feel better, look better, and quench your thirst is by drinking water.  Drink only water for a month straight and see how great you will feel by the end of it.  

And that is just a few things we can do to light that fire and start changing things now before 2019 begins.  There is an abundant amount of changes that can be applied to all of our lives; so start small and work your way to those goals.  Have a great holiday and I’ll be here in the new year!  


Bye Babes!

xoxoxo,

Bougie